WOMEN SEEKING MEN ADULT DATING

Let’s talk Fall - Spring relationships. For anybody who doesn’t know, this means a relationship between an older swinger and a younger paramour. You could say that any of Jack Nicholson’s more recent flings would fall under this category (ditto Michael Douglas/Catherine Zeta-Jones), but what about an older swinger dating a strapping young dude? Of course, if you want to stick to your own generation, that’s fine and dandy (senior dating sites are almost as popular as their typically younger equivalents). But why should Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher have all the fun? Celebrities and financial magnates shouldn’t be the only people dabbling in mixed age dating.

Coyness is underrated. In an age of visible thongs (”whale tails” as they’re not so affectionately called), stripper reality shows, and the collective tackiness of Paris Hilton/Tara Reid/Lindsey Lohan, a little coyness can be alluring and attractive. But shy love has got it’s risks as well. One of the more frustrating events in life is not unrequited love, but love left unsaid. It’s difficult for some people to summon the nerve and say something, anything, to the object of their affection. You either end up in the friend-zone (which isn’t necessarily bad, but it can be frequently fraught with tension) or simply drifting apart from your paramour as a result of being too shy/coy/polite etc etc. Overcoming awkwardness is pretty basic, but it’s hardly an easy barrier to overcome for everybody.

The “Dear John” letter used to be the staple (if not the stereotype) of military life. For those of you who were not raised on MASH re-runs, a “Dear John” letter consists of a wife writing a passive-aggressive letter to her indisposed husband that the marriage is over (this announcement was sometimes coupled with a surprise like the wife saying that she had fallen in love with the milkman/pizza delivery guy/shoe salesman etc). Times have changed and the world has shrunk since those days - it’s easier than ever for those in the armed forces to date, and military singles aren’t limited to waiting for snail mail to bring them word of their romantic lives. There are plenty of military dating sites out there, but let the buyer beware - some of ‘em ain’t as hot as they seem.

If you’re anything like me, you too also enjoy surfing around on dating sites that are geared primarily towards sex (or you’re still cruising around the singles ads in the back of newspapers). Even if you’re not actively looking for any action, it’s always fun to see how the singles scene is doing, what’s trendy in dating etc. It’s kind of like people-watching at bars or parks, except you’ve got the safety of anonymous web searches to keep the real lunatics at a fair distance - drunk idiots aren’t quite so abrasive when they’re miles away. Sex dating sites are offering some stiff competition against the bar scene, but it’s always interesting to see if people are actually taking advantage of the medium and coming up with interesting sexy swingerals. Heck, even the badly written ones are entertaining in their own way.

You’ve seen ‘em on the tv shows, you’ve heard them on the radio. They’re called gay boyadult dating, and they’ve been the platonic standbys for women for as long as anybody can remember. The gay best friend is almost stereotypical, and a quick glance at some of the TV shows in the best few years should indicate the typical features - effeminate, weirdly nonsexual guys and their sassy gal pals. However, I’ve witnessed a couple of platonic adult datinghips like these fall apart, and it’s usually because of one question - What if the feelings run deeper, at least as far the girl is concerned? Gay dating is pretty easy to do when you’re another gay guy, but what about the hetero best adult dating who wind up being attracted to their sassy best friend? A gay tease can be awfully irritating when the expectations are raised.